“Stress levels in India remain very high compared to other developed and emerging countries such as the USA, UK, Germany, France, and Australia,” the Cigna 360 Well-Being Survey 2019 noted”
Especially among women in India, there are large cases of women who are married and working tend to experience more depression than married men. There is a large percentage gap of women indulge in a stressful work environment than men.
Unwritten Rules:
Many say “ women don’t handle stress well”.But the working women(I mention married women here) concept is quite strange in India. Many women believe that taking care of children is the woman’s sole responsibility for the family. And so they need to sacrifice a little in work. And the vice-versa won’t happen. They have an absolute satisfying answer that the husband’s salary pays a big slice in family finance. Maybe they are right in their own way. I will explain this why because in India women get married off at an early age of 22 to 24 at max. As India is the biggest engineer manufactures, all engineering students tend to complete their degree by age of 21. And a woman tends to start working by 21 itself and some maybe after a year. And after 2 years of her working career, she would be forced to marry. And mostly it’s an arranged marriage, which your parents arrange it for you. And it’s obvious that he(bridegroom), would be a minimum of 5 years elder than you. So it’s quite obvious now, why he is steps ahead in ladders of career and finance matter.
Even we embrace our millennial’s labels, all over. Still, there are people not willing to let go of gender stereotypical customs. And few women, sorry most of the women tend to fall into trap of “the good daughter”, ”the good wife”, “the good daughter-in-law”, “the good mother” labels. So they fall into the trap of listening to unwritten rules of Indian women.
The stressful sauce:
So now we come to the actual sauce of this article, Stress of married working women,
What the stress they need to face up if they decided to work after marriage and especially after giving birth to a baby. It’s still the women’s responsibility to take of baby and household chores. And the new norms going on, that a successful woman is who successfully do household chores and take care of baby and also perform well in work and achieve targets in projects too.
I don’t say humans cant do it, but it’s tough. you know. And also why us!. Yes, the stress what women go through is quite different from what men go through. And because of this sort of life, many women quit their job. And our women, men ratio in working statistics are low, and the number of women in chief executive positions is less.
Every human is emotional, and we tend to make women feel that taking care of children is women’s sole responsibility. And so, when compared to father, the mother feels more guilty of her career. Quitting her career will make her guilt go away. But what about her career.
Schedule like a roomie
The only solution to this is to sit and talk. And decide who needs what. A woman is strong by having a strong supporting husband at her back, who supports whatever the society says. So nothing wrong in sharing your work.
And have you thought, how cool it is to have a best friend as your room and share your house chores and have fun at home. It was amazing with your girlfriend at college.
But when your commie becomes your husband. Everything weighs more on one side. And it’s not fair. Give it a chance and try this roomie technique.
